“In the heart of every man is a desire to be brave, to be good, and to protect.” This quote by Catholic apologist Matt Fradd speaks powerfully to my feminine heart. Ever since I was a little girl, I knew these truths about men. I was shown them in a deep and genuine way by the men in my life. My Dad was (and still is) one of my heroes. Himself a farm boy, he was hardworking, self-sacrificing, full of faith and affectionate to his four children. When I was young, it seemed to me that Dad never made the wrong choice and was the wisest man in the whole wide world! He was exceptionally brave (even releasing the dead mice from the traps – which none of us girls could ever do). I had an overwhelming sense that all was well if Dad was near.
The blessing of having an older brother is one that I’ll forever be grateful for. Brett was fifteen months my senior and we were the best of playmates from the very beginning. He was a good brother, showing me how to work hard, play hard, and have a lot of fun. He was gentle and patient and even brave enough to teach me how to drive my first car, which was a stick shift. My younger brother, Jonathan, was afraid of nothing and has the scars to prove it. He was a chip off the old block, acquiring many of Dad’s masculine qualities, which have proven to be a blessing to him and all those he encounters. Like Dad, my brothers allowed me the comfort of knowing that I was loved, provided for, and safe.
Father and Husband
With this solid foundation, when it came time to date I knew intrinsically the right type of guy for me. He had to be faithful, responsible, hard-working, and fun. When I met Scott, I knew he was my man. He was brave, good, and instinctively put my well-being and happiness above his own. After 18 years of marriage he continues to love me with patience, generosity and thoughtfulness. Like Dad, Scott’s masculine heart provides for me the support I need to live out my role as wife and mother.
As our sons grow into men, I enjoy watching them embrace many of these same qualities. Through prayer and the example and support of strong male role models, it is my hope that they, too, will bless the women in their lives with the goodness, comfort and protection that I’ve always known.