If you’re like me you’ve probably uttered this phrase at least once (if not a dozen times) in your lifetime. When was the last time? When you tried to do that “minor” home repair on your own, only to find it much more complicated that the 3-minute YouTube video suggested? Or when you enthusiastically volunteered to host a sleepover for your 12 year old daughter and ten of her closest friends? How about that time you accepted your friend’s dare to cook an entire Thanksgiving meal all by yourself? Wait, only I did that?
The most memorable time I recall saying this harrowing phrase was when I brought my first newborn home from the hospital. Being a “manly” man, I tried to put on a good show as I carried Allison from the car into our home, excited to show her mother and everyone I knew that Dads really CAN do all the child rearing things society may want you to believe otherwise: bathing, putting to bed, waking up, feeding, laundry, putting to bed, waking up, feeding, changing diapers, waking up, feeding, etc.. I was feeling proud and empowered! I may even open a Daddy Daycare!
Then the first diaper change came.. Andit was a doozie. To this day I have no idea how a smell that powerful came from something so tiny! It’s a good thing I planned ahead and purchased some of those “anti-sick” masks you see people wearing during the flu season because otherwise I’m not sure I could’ve lasted the 10 minutes (or 30?) it took me to figure the whole changing process out. What have I gotten myself into!? And yet that fond memory was over 15 years ago! I’m blessed and happy to say it didn’t scare me too much that I have two more beautiful daughters as well.
Does God Call the Qualified?
What’s my point? I’ll wager almost all of us have encountered a time in our lives when we didn’t feel ready for the challenge before us. We were nervous and we doubted ourselves. We tried to make up excuses why we couldn’t complete the task, that we weren’t good enough, that someone surely is better. And yet, would any of you say someone would be a better Dad to your kids than yourself? Hardly – YOU were called to that role!
You’ve heard it said that God doesn’t call the qualified, but rather qualifies the called. As dads, husbands, brothers, and sons of Christ we are all called to much more than we believe! Think of all the hurdles you have overcome in your own lives. Did you do it on your own? Heck no – Jesus was right there with you! All you need is to reach out to Him and accept His calling.
I encourage you to be mindful this week of the many opportunities Jesus is calling you to share His love and grace. Perhaps it’s to be more involved in your Parish by joining a new ministry (give it a try – I’ve tried many and not all were for me!), or helping out at your child’s school for a day. Maybe your hobbies can be shared with the community in a fun or creative way, or simply try leading your family at home in bedtime prayers every night for a month. Whatever you choose know that God smiles upon your offering and continues to qualify you for more than you can imagine.
In His peace – Erich